{"id":2953,"date":"2013-04-15T23:01:14","date_gmt":"2013-04-16T06:01:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/?p=2953"},"modified":"2013-04-15T23:01:14","modified_gmt":"2013-04-16T06:01:14","slug":"5-sorry-sorries-to-avoid-as-a-leader","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2013\/04\/15\/5-sorry-sorries-to-avoid-as-a-leader\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Sorry Sorries to Avoid as a Leader"},"content":{"rendered":"

Don\u2019t you hate it when you blow it as a leader?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not talking about getting someone\u2019s name wrong. I\u2019m talking about the \u201cHow could I have been so stupid, that was the dumbest, most insensitive thing I\u2019ve ever done as a leader!?\u201d kind of blowing it.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>When you\u2019ve been there as a leader, you know your next step usually comes down to one thing leaders often have a hard time doing.<\/p>\n

The apology.<\/p>\n

One reason leaders sometimes struggle with the apology is that many fall into one of these five apology blunders. If you need to issue an apology, avoid these sorry \u201csorries\u201d.<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>The \u201cI\u2019m Sorry to<\/em> Everyone\u201d Apology<\/strong><\/p>\n

An apology should be limited to the person or people directly offended by the offense.<\/p>\n

If you wronged a member of your board, you don\u2019t have to apologize to the entire congregation.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>The \u201cI\u2019m Sorry for<\/em> Everything\u201d Apology<\/strong><\/p>\n

A friend of mine was asked by his church to issue a public apology for a series of leadership mis-steps, most of which were well beyond his responsibility.<\/p>\n

Own your stuff, but don\u2019t own everyone else\u2019s stuff.<\/p>\n

3.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>The \u201cI\u2019m Sorry If<\/em>\u2026\u201d Apology<\/strong><\/p>\n

Some celebrities and politicians have become masters of this one.<\/p>\n

It usually goes like this: \u201cI\u2019m sorry if my drunken behavior caused you any offence\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

We hear the word \u201csorry\u201d, so we think that was an apology. But it really wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Let your \u201csorry\u201d be \u201csorry\u201d. Take out the \u201cif\u201d.<\/p>\n

4.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>The \u201cI\u2019m Sorry, But<\/em>\u201d Apology<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ever heard one like this?<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m sorry for being so rude, but I was really tired.\u201d<\/p>\n

Again, it sort of sounds like an apology, because it contains the word \u201csorry\u201d. However, as soon as you insert the word \u201cbut\u201d, it really isn\u2019t an apology anymore.<\/p>\n

5.\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>The \u201cI\u2019m Sorry\u2026Eventually<\/em>\u201d Apology<\/strong><\/p>\n

The expression \u201cjustice delayed is justice denied\u201d has a cousin; \u201cAn apology delayed is an apology denied.\u201d<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t make the mistake of waiting too long to issue your apology. Own up as soon as reasonably possible.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it. If you\u2019re in leadership for any length of time, you will<\/em> blow it at some point. And you will need to issue an apology.<\/p>\n

But by avoiding these sorry \u201csorries\u201d you can make your road back to credibility much smoother.<\/p>\n

What have you learned about saying \u201csorry\u201d in your leadership?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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