{"id":4660,"date":"2015-05-16T07:36:52","date_gmt":"2015-05-16T12:36:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/?p=4660"},"modified":"2015-05-17T06:56:44","modified_gmt":"2015-05-17T11:56:44","slug":"the-character-crisis-that-can-chase-people-away","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2015\/05\/16\/the-character-crisis-that-can-chase-people-away\/","title":{"rendered":"The Character Crisis that can Chase People Away"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>This month&#8217;s leadership coaching trip with Bill Hybels through South America and Mexico saw more than 3000 leaders impacted.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>One of the recurring themes that emerged centered on <a href=\"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2015\/05\/11\/want-game-changing-results-start-with-game-changing-questions\/\" target=\"_blank\">\u201cWhat kind of leader do people want to follow?\u201d <\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>To a group of leaders in Rio de Janeiro Bill emphatically underscored 2 chilling qualities people <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">can\u2019t stand<\/span> in their leaders. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>As Bill taught this point I recognized that if leaders fail to eradicate these qualities early they could have a full-blown character crisis on their hands\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/Bill-Puebla.jpg\" class=\"btn-image--openpopup figure aligncenter size-full wp-image-4661\" ><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-4661\" title=\"Bill Puebla\" src=\"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/Bill-Puebla.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"512\" height=\"384\" srcset=\"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/Bill-Puebla.jpg 640w, https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/Bill-Puebla-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/Bill-Puebla-433x325.jpg 433w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<strong>1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong><strong>\u201cPeople can\u2019t stand dishonesty in their leader.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In my own notes I jotted down that the real danger is rarely in the telling of bald-face lies. For most leaders dishonesty seeps in through the most subtle of statements and actions. Some of the most common include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Chronic lateness\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019ll meet you tomorrow at 9:00 am.\u201d Then you show up at 9:10.<\/li>\n<li>Some leaders will dismiss their chronic tardiness as a reflection merely of their demanding schedule. But it ultimately communicates dishonesty.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Consistent lack of follow-through\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019ll call you next week.\u201d And no call is made.<\/li>\n<li>When you consistently fail to follow through on even the smallest of commitments people come to doubt any commitment you make.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Unmitigated hyperbole\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cThat was the best service\/meeting\/idea EVER!\u201d But everyone knows it was really quite average.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2014\/06\/05\/4-risks-that-exaggeration-poses-to-your-leadership-2\/\" target=\"_blank\">As I\u2019ve written previously, exaggeration and hyperbole are deadly forms of dishonesty<\/a> for leaders.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong><strong>\u201cPeople can\u2019t stand arrogance in their leader.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Here I wrote down that such arrogance usually reveals itself in the smallest, but deadliest, forms of subtle behavior and speech.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Humble-bragging\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019m kinda embarrassed by this double-digit growth under my leadership\u2026\u201d<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2014\/07\/14\/3-character-warning-lights-leaders-must-recognize\/\" target=\"_blank\">As I\u2019ve written before, your people can sniff out such arrogance in a nanosecond.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Spotlight stealing\n<ul>\n<li>An infuriating form of arrogance is found in the leader <a href=\"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2015\/01\/08\/leadership-by-not-showing-up\/\" target=\"_blank\">who must make themselves the focal point of attention<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>When you hog all the positive attention for yourself you drive your people further into the shadows.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>The White-Knight complex\n<ul>\n<li>Implicitly, or explicitly, some leaders make it sound like they had ridden in on a stallion and had single-handedly rescued the organization from certain doom.<\/li>\n<li>People withdraw their support from such leaders.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Consider using this checklist to form your own character audit.<\/p>\n<p>Because if you can catch these indicators when they\u2019re relatively small, you can avoid a full-blown character crisis later on.<\/p>\n<p><strong>How do you prevent these character crises from seeping into your leadership?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This month&#8217;s leadership coaching trip with Bill Hybels through South America and Mexico saw more than 3000 leaders impacted. One of the recurring themes that emerged centered on \u201cWhat kind of leader do people want to follow?\u201d To a group of leaders in Rio de Janeiro Bill emphatically underscored 2 chilling qualities people can\u2019t stand&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,738,440,478,7,581],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4660","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-discipline2","category-effectiveness-2","category-failing","category-featured","category-leadership","category-self-assessment"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4660","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4660"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4660\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4669,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4660\/revisions\/4669"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4660"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4660"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4660"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}