{"id":5881,"date":"2017-07-18T21:27:08","date_gmt":"2017-07-19T02:27:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/?p=5881"},"modified":"2017-07-18T21:27:08","modified_gmt":"2017-07-19T02:27:08","slug":"the-character-crisis-that-can-chase-people-away-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2017\/07\/18\/the-character-crisis-that-can-chase-people-away-4\/","title":{"rendered":"The Character Crisis that can Chase People Away"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Have you ever found yourself being led by someone whose leadership you just couldn&#8217;t stand? Ever been around someone leading the charge who just completely rubbed you the wrong way?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>What were the characteristics you found so difficult to work with?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>During a leadership coaching session Global Leadership Summit founder Bill Hybels addressed this question. And leaders would do well to heed these key insights.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Bill stated emphatically that there are two qualities that people just can&#8217;t stand in their leaders.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><strong>1.\u00a0<\/strong><strong>\u201cPeople can\u2019t stand dishonesty in their leader.\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n<h2><strong>2.\u00a0<\/strong><strong>\u201cPeople can\u2019t stand arrogance in their leader.\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>In my own experience, I have found that these dangerous qualities often begin with seemingly innocent patterns:<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Dishonesty often starts with:<\/strong><\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Chronic lateness<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019ll meet you tomorrow at 9:00 am.\u201d Then you show up at 9:10.<\/li>\n<li>Some leaders will dismiss their chronic tardiness as a reflection merely of their demanding schedule. But it ultimately communicates dishonesty.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Consistent lack of follow-through<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019ll call you next week.\u201d And no call is made.<\/li>\n<li>When you consistently fail to follow through on even the smallest of commitments people come to doubt any commitment you make.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Unmitigated hyperbole<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cThat was the best service\/meeting\/idea EVER!\u201d But everyone knows it was really quite average.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2014\/06\/05\/4-risks-that-exaggeration-poses-to-your-leadership-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">As I\u2019ve written previously, exaggeration and hyperbole are deadly forms of dishonesty<\/a>\u00a0for leaders.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Arrogance often starts with:<\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Humble-bragging<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201cI\u2019m kinda embarrassed by this double-digit growth under my leadership\u2026\u201d<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2014\/07\/14\/3-character-warning-lights-leaders-must-recognize\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">As I\u2019ve written before, your people can sniff out such arrogance in a nanosecond.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Spotlight stealing<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>An infuriating form of arrogance is found in the leader\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2015\/01\/08\/leadership-by-not-showing-up\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">who must make themselves the focal point of attention<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>When you hog all the positive attention for yourself you drive your people further into the shadows.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>The White-Knight complex<\/strong>\n<ul>\n<li>Implicitly, or explicitly, some leaders make it sound like they had ridden in on a stallion and had single-handedly rescued the organization from certain doom.<\/li>\n<li>People withdraw their support from such leaders.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Consider using this checklist to form your own character audit.<\/p>\n<p>Because if you can catch these indicators when they\u2019re relatively small, you can avoid a full-blown leadership character crisis later on.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever found yourself being led by someone whose leadership you just couldn&#8217;t stand? 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