{"id":6288,"date":"2018-10-22T20:23:24","date_gmt":"2018-10-23T01:23:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.scottcochrane.com\/?p=6288"},"modified":"2018-10-22T20:23:24","modified_gmt":"2018-10-23T01:23:24","slug":"how-i-hate-meetings-can-be-hurting-your-leadership-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/2018\/10\/22\/how-i-hate-meetings-can-be-hurting-your-leadership-2\/","title":{"rendered":"How \u201cI Hate Meetings\u201d Can Be Hurting Your Leadership"},"content":{"rendered":"

When did the \u201cI hate meetings\u201d movement begin?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Really!<\/strong><\/p>\n

When did this start?<\/strong><\/p>\n

When did it become the fashionable go-to statement when leaders gather to hear them say to one another, \u201cI just hate meetings!\u201d \u201cOh ya?! I hate them more!\u201d \u201cWell I REALLY hate meetings!\u201d<\/p>\n

When You Say \u2018I Hate Meetings\u2019\u00a0Your Team Hears Something Different.<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Leaders, we need to stop saying this, because when we say, \u201cI hate meetings\u201d, what our teammates hear is, \u201cI don\u2019t want to spend time with these people.\u201d<\/p>\n

Really.<\/p>\n

Think about it. If you overhear your team leader look at\u00a0their appointment calendar and say, \u201cWhat? Another meeting with the team? Why do I have to always meet with these people?\u201d you could easily translate that ranting into, \u201cI just don\u2019t like spending time with them.\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s Not About Good Meetings vs Bad Meetings<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Now, many leaders will protest at this point and will say, \u201cIt\u2019s only\u00a0bad<\/em>\u00a0meetings I don\u2019t like.\u201d<\/p>\n

Fair point. And there are thousands of books and articles written about how to hold good meetings. This is not one of those articles.<\/p>\n

Do They Know How You Really Feel?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

This piece is making one single point; When your team believes you don\u2019t like having meetings, they believe you don\u2019t want to spend time with them. And it hurts your team\u2019s culture, and ultimately their performance.<\/p>\n

Your team runs on the fuel of your personal approval and even affection for them. In fact, I\u2019ll take it a step further. Your team runs on the fuel of your love for them.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s right. They need to know that you love them.<\/p>\n

And one of the surest ways to pop that balloon is to make it known that you don\u2019t like spending time with them.<\/p>\n

So, by all means, make sure your meetings are effective, well-run and purposeful. But (and here\u2019s the kicker),\u00a0even if your meetings suck, don\u2019t let your team know you don\u2019t like to meet with them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let them know that the highlight of your day is to be able spend time with them.<\/p>\n

And let\u2019s turn those \u201cI hate meetings\u201d chants into \u201cI love my team\u201d rants.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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