In recent years a virtual \u201cmovement\u201d has sprung up in leadership circles where it has become increasingly fashionable to announce, \u201cI hate meetings!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Often this sparks a dialogue that sounds something like this; \u201cOh ya?! I hate them more!\u201d \u201cWell I REALLY hate meetings!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Leaders, whether we’re talking about Zoom meetings or in-person gatherings, we need to stop saying this. Because when we say, \u201cI hate meetings\u201d, what our teammates hear is, \u201cI don\u2019t want to spend time with these people.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Really.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Think about it. If you overhear your team leader look at their appointment calendar and say, \u201cWhat? Another meeting with the team? Why do I have to always meet with these people?\u201d you could easily translate that ranting into, \u201cI just don\u2019t like spending time with them.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now, many leaders will protest at this point and will say, \u201cIt\u2019s only bad<\/em> meetings I don\u2019t like.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fair point. And there are thousands of books and articles written about how to hold good meetings. This is not one of those articles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When your team believes you don\u2019t like having meetings, they believe you don\u2019t want to spend time with them. And it hurts your team\u2019s culture, and ultimately their performance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your team runs on the fuel of your personal approval and even affection for them. In fact, your team runs on the fuel of your love for them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And one of the surest ways to pop that balloon is to make it known that you don\u2019t like spending time with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, by all means, make sure your meetings are effective, well-run and purposeful. Whether on Zoom or (eventually) in person, even if your meetings suck, don\u2019t let your team know you don\u2019t like to meet with them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Let them know that the highlight of your day is to be able spend time with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And let\u2019s turn those \u201cI hate meetings\u201d chants into \u201cI love my team\u201d rants.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When you say, \u201cI hate meetings!\u201d, your team could be receiving a message that might be damaging your culture more than you ever realized. In recent years a virtual \u201cmovement\u201d has sprung up in leadership circles where it has become increasingly fashionable to announce, \u201cI hate meetings!\u201d Often this sparks a dialogue that sounds something…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":6910,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,478,7,744],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6909","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-community","category-featured","category-leadership","category-team-2"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6909","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6909"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6909\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6911,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6909\/revisions\/6911"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6910"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6909"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6909"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/scottcochrane.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6909"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Do They Know How You Really Feel?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n